Q & A: Whatever I ask for, the School Says "No"

This is the second part of an eight-part series, "Top Flaws of IEP/504s and What You can Do About Them"


The Problem

No matter what I ask for in IEP meetings, the school says no. Sometimes I'm told what I'm asking for violates school policy. Other times the school says I don't understand my child's needs. How do I respond?

What You Can Do

Begin by explaining the reason for your request and why the status quo is not working. Use examples. Offer written documentation. Try to persuade the team that your request is something your child needs, not simply something you want. The law requires the school to meet your child's needs, but does not require the school to provide the ideal education. If you are told that your request violates law or policy, politely ask for a written copy of that portion of the law and policy. Sometimes school officials confuse "what is always done" with the law. If the school is able to provide you with a copy of the law or policy, review it, and see if there is some reason why it should not apply to your child.

If you need help advocating for your child's IEP or 504 rights, contact Boston area special education advocate Lillian E. Wong today.